Indirect DiscriminationJust had a phone call from my boss here at work. She asked me to transfer it to the back and as I sat in her office, listening to her she was cautioning me to maintain discretion about my TG status. There was an element of threat and genuine fear in her voice. She kept restating how tolerant she was and how happy she was for me, but apparently she has this real and genuine concern that I am going to expose She has constantly stated that Im not a freak in her eyes and Im not a threat but for some reason she is terrified of me running about spreading my TG ideology or whatever about the hotel. I realize now I made a mistake being open with her, but I am infuriated and deeply troubled by her left handed support and outright distrust have my professionalism and my ability to keep my mouth shut. After all, Ive kept it shut, and have hid my life for 27 years but I talk to my boss and apparently im the most loose lipped liberal threat ever to hit Idaho.
GRRR!
DB
Joy
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I remember when I was getting into Wicca, my Figure Drawing instrctor actually pulled me out of class to lecture me about what I was getting myself into, because he was a devout christian! He had been my fave teacher until that day, and he tried tobe gentle and sweet about itt, but I was never able to fully forgive him. He's lucky I didn't file a complaint with the administration! Your boss would be lucky if you don't do report her for discrimination -- she wouldn't ask any non GLBT employee to hide their gender or sexuality! GRRRRR ...
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"14. Ogres are not kosher.
26. Valley speak has no place in a fantasy setting. Especially if you're the paladin.
92. The name of the weapon shop is not 'Bloodbath and Beyond'"
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Sorry about that... Honestly, from what you've said about your boss, maybe they aren't so accepting and happy for you as they say.
I don't wish to generalize on Idaho, but that kind of thinking is exactly why it's illegal to have your birth certificate altered when you TG if you were born there. Actually, much the same attitude exists here in Ohio, and the same law exists here. Tennessee... I don't know about, but I'd imagine the same deal.
Unfortunately, it's just that not many can understand what pressures and fears we already have... so they're even worse about being understanding about it... especially making you more upset by saying something like "be sure to hide it blah blah"... Hiding it is by far the easiest part... and the most painful. You fear telling others because you fear reaction like what your boss gave you. I'm real sorry it happens like that, hon. :S
At least you know you don't have much longer there, and you know as well as I do that where you're going, you will be in a better position to be accepted. I think all of us TG folks should just move out West. >.> Here in the east, it seems like so many people are ready to judge... but in the West, you have states like California... where they even seem to accept such 'weird' people as us. I'll talk to you later on, hon. *hugs*
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